Ah, I love Kelly. She’s in possession of something many, many fashion people don’t have: a sense of humor (which, if you ask me, is essential!). Your question is a good one and one that, honestly, I don’t really have a concrete answer for. It’s odd, because a lot of people I speak to these days will say they want to work in fashion or beauty because it seems fun or cool. “Fun” and “cool” fade. I think it’s important to tap into a deeper calling and reason. For me, it’s because I love to write and to share my point of view with others (it still amazes me that I have followers on this little blog of mine. Thank you ^_^). For others, it might be because of the art of fashion, the transformative qualities of beauty. Find that purpose and let that be your guide.
A common mistake, I think, that a lot of girls make is that they confuse working at a magazine for being in the magazine. As such, they’ll dress up in somewhat ridiculous get-ups on a daily basis or to the interview: crazy-tall heels that they can’t walk in, body-con dresses or skirts that are very…er…binding, ornate makeup that requires a ton of touching up. They look very done-up, but not exactly like they can work. And, really, what you’re doing when you’re interning or assisting is running around like a crazy person. You need to be nimble, spry, and dressed (fashionably) for comfort. For an interview I’d suggest a chic but comfortable outfit—I wore Miu Miu kitten heels, a little pleated skirt, and a black sweater, I think. Lots of black! But most importantly—and definitely more crucial: come prepared with a knowledge of the company you’re applying for and a ready answer for why you deserve the job. Good luck!
Oh, I love serums. I have a whole jumble of bad metaphors/analogies for them (they’re like the Swiss Army Knives of beauty! they’re like a base coat for your skin!). But, to break it all down, here’s serum 101: 1) they usually contain a high concentration of active ingredients, that’s why they’re more expensive. 2) the formula is typically sheerer than a cream and they’re meant to be worn as a base layer (if you have super oily skin, sometimes you can get away with just a serum) 3) I have no hard data for this but they’ll just make your skin happier. When I started using serums regularly under my AM SPF and PM night cream, my skin texture improved markedly. here, some of my favorites: *for dry skin, this rose oil serum is divine. I also started using this oil recently and it has really lovely texture. And for the record, no, face oil won’t make your face break out. *for normal skin, I often use this serum in the evening. It smells heavenly! *This one is great for all skin types and really boosts glow. *Have oily skin? Don’t be afraid of moisture. This and this are my two favorite oily skin serums. Embrace serums—they’re an extra step, yes, but really well worth it.
I love that you want to be more natural—one of my makeup pet peeves is seeing young girls such as yourself with fundamentally gorgeous skin covering it up with a thick layer of makeup. so! BB cream or a tinted moisturizer (let’s be real—they’re basically the same thing. The only difference between the two is that BB Creams always have SPF in them, and often come with one or two bonus benefits, like primer or more moisture, built in) would be a good choice for you. My favorite BB Cream is this one (it’s not too shimmery, just a touch of glow), and a good drugstore alternative would be this! My new favorite tinted moisturizer is 10000% this one, it lets your natural skin shine through. If your cheeks are super, super red, though, I would suggest priming skin with a color-correcting primer or concealer. I highly recommend Clinique’s entire Redness Reducing collection, by the way. When I get spots (sob), I use the foundation in lieu of concealer as a spot treatment. It works wonders.
Oh dear, I do love to eat, I can’t deny that. I get as much pleasure from a heaping spoonful of tiramisu as I do a fresh, shiny manicure. Actually, I don’t trust people who don’t like to eat—in my eyes, eating delicious food is one of the purest pleasures in life. And why would anyone want to deny themselves that pleasure? Hmmm. Anyway! The key is to choose what you eat wisely and always eat in moderation. I won’t eat anything out of boredom or just because it’s there. I used to be guilty of that, especially on days I would be on set for hours at a time. Nowadays, when I eat chocolate, I’ll make sure it’s super delicious dark chocolate (not, say, a stale Hershey Kiss in my doctor’s office). I’ll have pizza and French fries, just not every day (and, again, only eat it if it’s going to be extra-especially delicious). I think you also have to find, if you don’t have it already, an appreciation of healthy food—greens like kale and spinach, fish, healthy fats like olive oil and avocado. They really are health- and skin-boosting superfoods and you’ll see a difference in your energy when you eat more of those foods and cut back (not eliminate, because that’s too harsh) junk food. Lastly, yes, exercise. I don’t do it nearly as often as I would like, but I do try to do yoga every other day and am going to add some weights into my routine (this month! I promise!).
if you ask me, weird is the same thing as unique, which is the same thing as original, which is the same thing as cool. therefore, you are cool. ^_^ seriously, though, it’s funny how in high school, everyone wants to fit in and people who have their own taste/point of view are deemed “weird.” then, once you’re older, the tables turn and having your own opinion and look is considered the bee’s knees. trust me, I know. I went through the same thing and emerged (relatively) unscarred and more sure in my convictions (fashion or otherwise) than ever. and the key to surviving high school (or anywhere, really) is to find like-minded individuals whether at your own school or in the community.
ps: why not celebrate your fashion awesomeness? if you’re the only one at your school who has a passion for it, may I suggest offering to write a style column for your school paper? will be a great start for your eventual career in fashion.
oh! this is a very timely—and appropriate—question to ask me, since I just relocated to Los Angeles for a few months. okay, my perspective: first of all, it’s marvelous that you’ve found a potential career that you love and that you have a passion for. that, in of itself, is exceptionally difficult and some people spend their whole lives trying to pinpoint that. so I see why you’re conflicted about taking a break from it—and thus falling behind in your career. to be honest, though, there is no such thing as falling behind in your career especially this early in your path. first of all, you’re interning—not hired—at Weddingbells. I’m not saying that that’s license to take it any less seriously (the fact that you’re worried about leaving them is a sign to me, actually, about how much you love your job and how great of an intern you likely are). how long is the term of your internship though? why not intern there for a little while longer while you a) save money to b) travel for a few months? I am very pro-travel, pro-life-experience. once you start working-working (not just interning), it’s exceptionally difficult to take a year—or even a few months—off. but you never know where a life adventure in Seoul might take you—you could intern at Vogue Girl (I LOVE that magazine) while out there, or start your own travel blog or ‘zine. and that could lead to another job/internship/something amazing. when you open your heart and mind to life and opportunities, opportunities will, in turn, find you
Oh! So many things: *Maintain your optimism: don’t let the toxicity of your environment—a college major you don’t love, competitive friends, petty coworkers, etc etc—take it away from you. It is one of your defining qualities. *Learn to say no—and don’t be afraid to speak up: if you don’t speak up for yourself, you can’t expect others to pipe up for you. Be braver. *Be better with money. Really. You’ll need it when you move back to NYC. *Say yes to adventure, to (calculated) risk, to possibilities. The latter is something I’ve learned in spades since eighteen, but especially in the last few years of my career. Taking every meeting, being open to new opportunities and not being shackled by unwarranted fear or hesitation. This life we lead is short and fleeting—I assume you’re eighteenish if you’re asking this question. Listen: eighteen feels like it was yesterday to me. I remember everything about it from my poor fashion decisions (haha) to my general cluelessness and the occasional waves of trepidation about what the future would bring. Today, I am eighteen + ten + then some. Time flies, really it does, so maximize every second. Live the best life you can—any limitations you have are self-imposed.
dear women of the world: you should learn from this wise man. heythatsmint, I am obsessed with you. can you be my new SBFF (skincare best friend forever)? ^_^ but seriously, well done with your skincare routine. the only thing I’d say is a) if you feel oily during the day, use blotting papers (these are fairly unisex!) and b) instead of splashing water, have you thought about a facial mist instead? this one from Jurlique is really soothing and this one is a classic. and c) if your skin is super, super dry, consider adding a face oil to your routine. this one is my new favorite, it soothed my skin through a terrible cold recently!
ah, weddings. such happy, festive, fun affairs—unless you’re the bride, in which case you are super-stressed out with 9.8 million details. I love that you’re taking a proactive approach to your skincare and now is the perfect time to begin (five months out). so, first of all, I’d definitely recommend the basics: drinking lots of water, cutting back on refined sugars, boosting the amount of fruits and veggies you have. also, um, wash your face every night (I’m astounded by the number of people who don’t wash their face. don’t they realize they’re going to sleep with a day’s worth of oil, pollution, and grime on it!). if you can invest in a Clarisonic, I think it’s a wonderful way to deep cleanse and exfoliate. I use mine 2-3x a week (especially on the days I wear more makeup). many brides I know get facials, but I actually think if you cleanse properly, using masks at home is a great (and less expensive, because let’s face it, you have enough expenses these next few months) alternative. a few of my favorites: SK-II, Jurlique, Ren. lastly, try not to sweat the small stuff. I was, to be honest, a total bridezilla. I agonized over everrrrrything, every little detail. it was worth it, yes, but at the same time, I realize now that what people remembered from the wedding wasn’t how the blush of the favor ribbons perfectly matched the place card calligraphy. they remembered the overall happiness of the bride and groom and the love and joy everyone felt. hooray, congratulations!
aw, thank you for social-media-stalking me. I appreciate your support (and to all the other hundreds of thousands—how did that happen—of followers out there). well, David Bowie once said, “I DON’T KNOW WHERE I’M GOING, BUT I PROMISE YOU IT WON’T BE BORING.” that’s become my motto. I left Teen Vogue full-time last October (still writing for them, of course. check out their March issue!). I loved my seven years there, Amy Astley taught me so much about how to be an editor and just a good person overall. really, though, there’s no dramatic story: I just knew that I wanted to learn new things (digital! e-commerce! product design!), write for new places (Vogue! Elle! Wall Street Journal! Vogue China!), and see as much of the world as possible, so that I could feel my brain expand and learn new things again. I know a lot of people were, like, “oh my goodness, why would you leave a wonderful, stable job to be freelance?” (um, my mother said that. except swap in “oh my goodness” with “what is wrong with you”, haha). this is why—and this is advice for all you lovely ladies and gents reading out there: the purpose of life isn’t to be stable, safe. you owe it to yourself to live life to the fullest and to maximize every single opportunity you are blessed with. xx
oh dear, it sounds like you’ve been having a hard time with someone lately. (there’s almost always a “someone” instigating, isn’t there?). I hope everything’s okay! so, here are my thoughts on your questions: no, you’re not wrong for what you’re feeling or thinking. the magazine industry tends to attract driven, ambitious people and with that can come a fair amount of drama. it’s not an industry that’s like booming either—it’s getting smaller and more difficult to find jobs, so there’s that contributing to everything as well. but my point of view is that you could be in any industry—neurosurgery! academia! zoology! (what a random assortment of jobs I chose, btw)—and it would be similarly cutthroat and backstabby. because, really, it comes down to one person/group of people who like causing drama. your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to be super-aware of these folks and to steer clear of them (be polite and nice, of course, though). find the people that you trust, that you feel comfortable around, and that are true friends. they exist. I know they do, because I myself found a group like that, even in the fashion industry. you obviously love writing—it’s so hard to find your passion in life. don’t let someone take that away from you.
hooray, I’m glad to be a force for skincare good. your message made my day! so, serum 101: just as basecoat is the most important step of a manicure (this one has been my favorite for the last two years), serum is like basecoat for the skin, a crucial first step. the analogy is a tad jumbled but basically what serum does is deliver a straight shot of beneficial ingredients to the skin (they’re often pricier than plain lotions because they’re more concentrated) plus deliver on benefits like hydration, brightening, etc. so, it’s up to you to choose what kind of serum you need. if you’re looking to fade dark spots, perhaps try Clinique or L’Oreal. remember to wear SPF during the day as well, since just as sun darkens the rest of your skin, it can darken dark spots. and for those of you looking for hydration (it’s so deeply dry out there this time of year), these are two of my favorite serums for deep moisturization: Dermalogica and Ren.
Stefano Tonchi! Hamish Bowles! Mark Holgate! Andre Leon Talley! Eric Wilson! Ariel Foxman! Derek Blasberg! Andrew Bevan! Hal Rubenstein! Joe Zee! (the list goes on.) listen, anytime someone tells you something that you know in your gut is simply not true (which must be the case, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking me for validation, no?), just tune it out. the world is full of naysayers—people LOVE telling other people what they can’t do. prove them wrong…
someone call me a cardiologist because your question just gave me heart palpitations. well, first of all, I’m glad you’re acknowledging your skin sins. although, first of all, there’s probably nothing wrong with the acne cleanser you’re using or the Dove cream you’re slathering on your sad, parched face. what is a major problem, though, or as Julia Roberts would say in Pretty Woman: “Big mistake. Big. Huge”, is that you aren’t removing makeup at night. that is not good. I’m picturing it seeping into your pores right now. seeping into your eyelash follicles, making your lashes sad and puny. okay, enough lecturing! here’s a basic skincare routine I recommend: *remove your makeup every night (even if it’s Yes to Carrots makeup removers. which I like a lot, by the way) *wash your face every night (it can be with something as simple as Cetaphil) *use a serum for your skin type (since you said “parched”, I’m going to recommend this one—it’s a splurge, but it’s worth it. I think serums are worth their weight in gold) and *night cream (this one is good for sad-looking skin). use an SPF during the day. this alone will make your skin happier and less arid. and, when you see a difference in a few weeks and want to graduate to masks and treatments, drop me another line ^_^