Hi Eva! So this is kind of random question but I'd love to hear you opinion because you're really good at doling out advice. I know what I want to do with my life after I graduate from college, but I'm terrified to tell my parents because I know they won't approve but waiting to tell them is really weighing on me and I'm just stuck in a rut. I can't wait to go for it, even though I know it's going to be hard, but I just don't even know where to start or how to approach it with them. Advice?
evachen212 said:

sigh, I can totally sympathize with you. I specifically remember calling my parents when I was in college and telling them I was switching majors (from pre-med to English, the horror). my dad was silent. my mom was hysterical and basically didn’t speak to me for a month, and then entered a denial phase that she’s only now—like, a decade later—is thawing out of. it can be hard but you should absolutely do it because why should you hide what you want to be (and therefore who you are)? so, here’s what I would do: tell them in person. don’t just say “Mom, Dad, I want to be a blahdeblah. isn’t that great? k, bye!” tell them your plans—and make them exactly that: plans. explain the career trajectory for the path you’re choosing: people start with this job, then they do this, and then are promoted to this, etc. I think 99 percent of my parents’ freak-out was due to lack of understanding of the industry I was embarking out. the more I fill them in, the more understanding they are (note the present tense—they’re still learning to embrace it). in any case, congratulations: you should be happy you found your calling. you’re lucky, really! so many people don’t know what they want to do with their lives, like, ever. if you know, you owe it to yourself to do it.

  1. yeahokayilldowhateveriwant said: This is wonderful :). I switched from pre-med to philosophy, then to psychology, and now I’m taking time off from school. Initially, my parents were against all of this, but once they realized I was doing what’s beat for me, they became very supportive.
  2. skyhigh-neonlights said: Hi Eva!! I’m hoping to be a fashion magazine editor in the future but I don’t know what to do to make that happen! I’ve been having this dream for so long and I just wish I can be that person. As an editor, what advice would you give me??
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