what's the best way (or ways) to go about asking for letters of rec? sometimes i'm just too intimidated....):
I used to suffer the same problem, which I’ve coined an unofficial official medical term for: FearOfStuffitis. I’d be too shy to ask for help, for recommendations, for a better seat, for anything, basically! and then I got over it. I realized that a) most people are pretty happy to help others (yes, there are horriblenastyevil people who aren’t, but they’re in the minority) and b) people are not mindreaders. you have to ask for the help you need. of course, it doesn’t hurt if you ask ultra-politely, at a convenient time for the askee, and follow up promptly with a thank you note (by mail, not email!)
EVA! Are you from New York? You answered someone saying it was vital to move to NYC. But how do you do it when you have little or no (let's be honest, it all goes to clothes) money, you have no job because you're moving to get one, and living in the city is SO EXPENSIVE?! I would love to move to NY to live the dream, but it seems impossible... how did you do it? Also, I'm trying to intern in my city. Writing a cover letter is key but where do I start? What stands out and what's useless to add?
in the interest of full, embarrassing disclosure: when I graduated, I pulled a Theo Huxtable and moved back home with my parents for a few months while I saved up money. but thousands of graduates make it work every year. some tips: *start saving now. NYC isn’t cheap, you’re right, and if you can come with a reserve of funds, that’s very helpful! *expect to start small. Monica Geller or Carrie Bradshaw’s apartments and lifestyles (last pop culture reference, I promise): not a reality. you might be sleeping on your aunt’s best friend’s cousin’s couch. but you’ll be in New York. and it is the place where—with hard work—dreams can come true!